Usually situations like yours don't get just better on their own, especially if you simply hope it will get better without doing anything.
For some males, once the inital attraction wears off sex with that woman is not as, um, exciting. If the man really cares about the woman he makes an effort to keep things gong.
The first thing yhou have to do is to be prepared to leave him. You need a plan for what to do if you leave him -- perhaps, return to your family and live with them for a while while you look for another job. Prepare yourself mentally that you may need to do this.
Then try to talk to him, if you haven't already. You want to find out if he really wants to continue with you, or not. If your first attempt or two doesn't work, pick a quiet time and schedule a talk and, if he says he doesn't want to break up, let him know that the relationship is at stake if things don't change. Suggest couples therapy if he's interested.
If he does want to break up, obviously just leave.
The sex part is important, not just because of the fact that it makes you feel bad, but also because it suggests that he doesn't care about you and your feelings. It sounds like he's just using you to get himself off very occasionally and not taking any account of your feelings. He's "whacking off into you," not making love to you.
If he says he wants to continue but he doesn't change, just leave. If he's the jealous and possibly violent type, hire a couple of large, burly off duty cops or firemen to help you pack. Seriously. Good luck.
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