Date: January 18, 2008 at 13:11:28
From: Nikki
Age: 35
Subject: Re: How To Get Over It!
Thomas, I have to say that in this instance I would think the right thing to do to tell this friend of hers the truth about what happened.
Of course, that will be the end of the "friendship" with the girl. So what. This Jill essentially betrayed her anyway by taking her bf. And she is at the least EXTREMELY insensitive in rubbing it in to the writer.
But even if Jill was totally blameless, hearing this kind of news is almost guaranteed to be a friendship breaker.
Jill probably doesn't truly deserve a head's up, but she needs one. This man is a scum bag and a loser and poor Jill will live to regret it if she marries him.
As for getting over someone, there is no easy way. But hearing about someone constantly and trying to be friends in this situation is going to generate nothing except prolonging the agony. Make as clean of a break as you can. Certainly you need to cut off contact with Jill. Explain to your mutual friends that you don't need to hear ANYTHING about either one of them. And then get incredibly busy and active.
Look, the real truth is that you are so much better off without him. Your head knows it. When your heart mends...and it WILL...you will be free of a man who would have made your life miserable for the long term. He did you a favor. And you WILL be a happy woman by this time next year. Trust me.
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