Speaking as a woman, I have issues with "suppose she at first didn't want it but then said it would be OK if it really turned me on." Too often, women want to please so badly that they will agree to things they REALLY don't want. Women will allow themselves to be physically hurt rather than say "NO" to a partner.
Women will pretend to orgasm when they don't to please a partner. They will agree to a threesome they don't want to make their man happy.
In short, too many women are easily pressured! I think that I am a strong woman. But I have to confess that I am not immune to wanting to please my partner enough that I have trouble denying him if he asks for something...sexual or not.
Well, I still do if it matters enough to me. Still, it's tough.
For that reason, Thomas, I think pressing a woman into an act she is initially reluctant to engage in is a bad idea. Yes, she might cave. And she might learn to enjoy it even. But on the other hand, she might be secretly hating it and hating the man who is doing it to her while it is happening and even afterwards.
My favorite poem says it all about love and sex. Most of us live by the philosophy that damn the consequences, what we want is key. But after all, "Every farthing of the cost,
All the dreaded cards foretell,
Shall be paid.
But from this night
Not a whisper, not a thought,
Not a kiss nor look be lost."
I think people should be more careful what they wish for. They might get it, but the consequences may not be what they want at all.
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