It's not a question of who has the "problem," but of whether you can fix it. Is the rest of your relationship healthy? You say you love him, but is he considerate of you in and out of the bedroom? Does he have sex with you, or make love to you? In bed, do you feel cheerished, loved, admired, worshipped? Does your lovemaking follow the same patterns, or do you both try new things? Does your life outside of sex follow the same patterns, or do you both try new things? Does he give you gifts, spring surprises, have other ways to show that he loves you?
Finally, can you talk to him about this? If you haven't, can you? You might think of a delicate way to phrase it. Couples therapy can sometimes help, but you might need to shop around for the right therapist. Good luck.
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