Okay, well here's the deal. Yes, I've known him for 7 years and loved him all those years. He was hiding from his feelings for me, because he said they scared him. I work as a CNA, so I know how to care for him. My children are still young enough to understand what he is going through. At this point in time, he is living with his parents, but he is moving forward at an amazing pace. He was apparently in a coma for a few weeks, but he is already learning how to walk again, and he doesn't have that many problems. Yes, he does have some memory problems, but he is on a study drug right now that may help with that. I tend to repeat myself a lot anyway, so it would be a good reminder.
Yes, I realize I need to do what's best for my children and I. I've never dated him, although the attraction, the spark, was always there. I really think he would be a great role model for my kids. He's a very strong person, and has great values.
He never got any money in a settlement, but he does receive disability right now. It's really difficult for me to describe how I feel for him. I just went to visit him for a few days, and I felt amazing just being able to help him up from his chair.
I'm not making any movements just yet. I went to see him to see if my mind would be changed by the way he is now. It hasn't. If anything, it's made me want to do MORE to help. I want to be a better person all because of him. He's made a huge impact on my life, and I wouldn't be the person I am today without him.
Thank you both for your advice. As I said, I'm not making any rash judgements right now, just taking my time to see how things unfold. That's probably for the best anyway. Thanks again.
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